To End Well
When my son was little, I had the heartbreaking task of sending him to his dads house a couple weekends a month. He was very much struggling in his school environment both socially and emotionally, and our weeks together were dense, to say the least.
Of course, we had beautiful moments of levity, yet, it was a more challenging time of his life and in my parenting world.
When it would come time to send him to his dads, after spending the entire week getting him regulated, it was heart-wrenching for us both. We would land in our sweet spot and then have to part ways. We began to use a phrase and embody this notion of ending well.
No matter what we had navigated in the days prior to our parting, we made the choice to end well. For us that looked like making sure that we had lots of snuggle time, hugs, kisses, and telling each other how much we loved each other. (And, yes, I am tearing up even writing this.)
I offer this to you as we close out another wild and heart-wrenching year of being a human and alive during these times.
As the darkness becomes more looming and the end of the year approaches…What do you need to do to end well? To let go and release that which you experienced in this past year that may be complete? To make peace with whatever unfolded? To honor and acknowledge your courage, integrity, and strength in steps that you may have taken?
What is needed of you to complete and release this past year so as to prepare for a ripe new year ahead full of possibilities? How do you want to show up in this next year ahead so releasing and simultaneously starting to vision what’s to come…?
What does ending well look and feel like for you and your life?
As we mentally, physically, and spiritually prepare for the upcoming Winter Solstice, the darkest day of the year, it is so important to honor the darkness, to embrace it, be with it, surrender to it, and tend to ourselves in deeply connected and aligned ways.
If you are needing rest, rest. If you are needing quiet, carve out moments to be quiet. If you are needing connection, find your people and connect your hearts.
Wherever you are along your path, bring your full selves there. Become one with that which is stirring in you, pulling you, luring you….do not fear the darkness.
There is so much medicine and wisdom accessible during these times of inward reflection. Capture the messages in any way that you can through the body…make art, meditate, dance, be in nature….whatever works for you and your system.
As always, I am out here in support. Reach out anytime!
Take good care of yourselves and be kind to each other.